• JackbyDev@programming.dev
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    It’s so weird to me that people will respond to something and then get angry that I don’t engage them in debate. People don’t owe you anything.

    I fell super hard into this in 2020. I would try so hard to gently explain to people that, yes, COVID is real and that, yes, Donald Trump lied about election interference. There was some post about more people in some county voting than were registered. I literally found the county’s records and showed them that no, there were more people registered than voted and that the post was a lie. You know what they said? “You found that with Google, which is a liberal source.”

    It’s not worth it. I don’t engage. I’m a much more stable and happy person because of it.

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        I think it was because I told them something like “you can just Google the county’s election information” and gave them the official link with the information.

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      The best? They proceed to call you a troll and then block you before you’re able to tell them to get off from your back and fuck off

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    Also don’t forget that a considerable number of the users that would engage in a debate with you are either children or bots.

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      The internet would be a different place if you always got to see a picture of who you’re arguing with (people would immediately see that I can’t be wrong)

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      Or trolls. I swear the internet as a whole forgot that the best way to deal with all of the above (AND idiots!) is to stop engaging.

      I blame modern social media. People are too well trained to feed the algo, even here on the fediverse.

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    Peaceful arguments is just not a thing online. There is no learning nor seeing the other perspective - Just people being defensive and manipulative.

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      It unfortunately also not a thing in real life. Tried to convince my mother’s partner that transphobia and homophobia is bad. Best I could do is to him admit it was not about “protecting the children”.

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        It never has been and never will be about protecting the children, not with the full roster of diddlers they keep in positions of authority…

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          A human trafficking minor fucker was tapped for AG.

          Roy Moore, the guy that was supposed to replace Jeff Sessions as senator wasn’t allowed in the mall. Too diddly.

          “They’re not sending their best.”

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            I know it’s wrong and primarily unjustified to think this, but sometimes I feel that we’ve evolved not at all as a species. We’ve developed fancier stuff, but barbarism is alive and well. It’s just wearing an expensive suit now.

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      It is possible, but especially in the bigger communities its usually just throwing poop at each other(that’s at least my experience).

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        Yeah I’ve burned a depressing amount of time in conversations that aren’t going somewhere. And yet, I keep finding myself back at that toxic ass watering hole 😔

    • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      You win debates for onlookers, you’re not meant to change the perspective of the person you’re debating, you’re meant to make them look like idiots so that any lurkers who quietly agree feel bad and change their viewpoint. The left lost because they weren’t willing to do this hard enough.

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        The on lookers don’t care. That’s why they are on lookers. The best you might do is prevent someone searching for an ideology blindly adopting some rando’s. Honestly, though, if they are letting rando’s arguing online form their worldview you are far from actually helping them.

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          They don’t care consciously, but subconsciously they’ll know and remember the time and idea was defended badly whenever it comes up, especially if their knowledge on it is a blank or close to blank slate.

          If you make it entertaining and thus a source of dopamine, and even better yet very consumable - you’ve got bonafide content and then people start caring, even if it’s only for lulz.

          They’ll associate your views with intelligent witty dunks and the dopamine they bring and have a favourable view of them.

          That’s both the model of the “Le angry feminazis!” reaction channels of the post-gamergate world and the hbomberguys of the world, especially his earliee stuff.

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    Also, the debate crowd doesn’t actually want to hear you to change their minds if new information is presented, they just want a platform to parrot their bullshit in a way they look legit and smart, and they can’t do that without the debate. So, as usual, don’t feed the troll.

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      They’re absolutely being disingenuous, but I think it’s important to keep in mind that the purpose of debate is not generally to change the mind of the person you’re debating with. It’s intended to be done with an audience (or judges in a formal competitive debate), and it’s the audience that you’re trying to sway to your side.

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      The only reason to engage is for lurkers who might not know better and need to see a way out of the pipeline before they go in too deep.

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    Actually, debate between hostile strangers online serves an important role in churning up internet drama. This is vital to the continued survival of the popcorn industry.

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    Wow thank you for this meme. The comments in the post above this one were absolute dog shit, and I seriously was on the verge of engaging with them. I didn’t engage. Yayyyy

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    If you press them too closely, they will abruptly fall silent, loftily indicating by some phrase that the time for argument is past. It is not that they are afraid of being convinced. They fear only to appear ridiculous or to prejudice by their embarrassment their hope of winning over some third person to their side.

    -Sartre

    Two additional sentences at the end of the often posted quote from “Anti-Semite and Jew”. Those two sentences were always included in the quote when I first saw it making it’s round years ago. Now it takes hunting to find the complete quote. Most sites cut it off after “the time for argument is past”. I wonder who would benefit from us forgetting those last two sentences.

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    Unfortunately, social media is highly influencial of public opinion, so it is a civic responsibility that those with life experience and expertise with things need to engage in. Failure to do so effectively is rolling over for MAGA Nazis 2.0.

    We need to be better at rhetoric and debate. Cicero wrote over 2 millenia ago about the power of eloquence.

    "Wisdom without eloquence does too little for the good of communities, but eloquence without wisdom is, in most instances, extremely harmful and never beneficial. If, then, anyone exerts all of his energies in the practice of oratory to the neglect of the highest and most honorable pursuits of reason and moral conduct, he is reared as a citizen useless to himself and harmful to his country; but the person who arms himself with eloquence in such a way that enables him not to assault the interest of his country, but rather assist them, this man, in my opinion, will be a citizen most helpful and most devoted both to his own interests and those of the public.”

    In recent years, the unwise have weaponized eloquence. The wise among us have failed spectacularly at understanding the importance and power of persuasion.

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    I argue to check if my opinions are popular in the community I’m in. If I get more positive engagement then I know I’m probably in the right place.